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Simple Steps to a Stronger Marriage


In his lighthearted style, Dr. Ray explains that the secret of a good marriage is applying a handful of commonsense, time-tested ideas practiced by others who have done it well. Each chapter presents a baby step you can take, encouragement to overcome resistance to taking that step, and a fictional couple in dialogue with an anonymous therapist (guess who!).

Most inspiring, this book reminds you that a happier, more rewarding marriage is achievable. You will learn how to make simple changes that will leave “daily discontent” behind and create a positive chain reaction in both your marriage and your family. Dr. Ray even shows how couples who are on the brink of separation can restore healing and intimacy in their marriage.

With the doctor’s advice, you will overcome any reluctance you might feel to taking these practical steps and learn:

  • The importance of developing the habit of saying “I’m sorry” (with apologies to Erich Segal!)
  • Why silence can truly be golden (and how to really listen!)
  • How to be polite when you don’t feel like it and how to ask constructive questions
  • Tips on how husbands can support their wives in parenting (it’s easier than you think!)
  • How “touch says much,” and why affection sometimes chills in a marriage
  • How living by the “Just don’t say it” philosophy is a game changer

You will also find out why accepting your spouse’s concerns isn’t necessarily the same as agreeing with his or her feelings or viewpoint. Moreover, you will see how simple manners can transform your relationship, and you will gain pointers on how to give meaningful praise to your spouse.

With Dr. Ray’s experience and insights, you will find that in seeking to understand your spouse, you, in turn, will be better understood. The most minor of improvements often reap major rewards.

Jesus knows our minds far more intimately than we do, and He knows the rewards we receive for following the paths He advocates. Indeed, in tackling any interior or exterior difficulty, there is certain knowledge that with Christ’s guidance comes reassurance and peace of mind, if only we know the path.

Dr. Guarendi’s experience as a father of ten and his mastery of the New Testament enable him to provide recommendations for dealing with numerous daily issues, including:

  • How to overcome jealousy and other passions
  • What it means — and doesn’t mean — to turn the other cheek
  • How to turn negativity into a harnessed virtue — without changing your nature
  • How to transform your natural qualities into supernatural qualities
  • The benefits of having problem children
  • How to improve your self-awareness
  • What the old adage “know thyself” really means
  • How Jesus turns self-esteem mantras on their heads
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Marriage expert Dr. Ray Guarendi has learned, through counseling many couples, that the secrets to building a better relationship with your spouse don’t include learning exotic new communication techniques or rearranging your lifestyle. In fact, a few of his ten “small steps” are so simple that you likely learned them in grade school.

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Weight 0.5 lbs
Dimensions 5.51 × 0.55 × 8.43 in

Dr. Ray Guarendi