So, now the culture warriors at The New York Times Magazine have gifted us with a piece titled “Is an Open Marriage a Happier Marriage?” This was followed by an umpteen-word piece about couples for whom one of the major sacraments of Christianity (and most other world religions) is now a three-some, four-some or whatever.
I can just hear some folks screaming: “We knew it was going in this direction! Say ‘yes’ to same-sex marriage, single parenting and it’s down the slippery slope.” I don’t quite follow that line of logic, but here we are. You know many people do think that and you also know that many journalists understand there are red-zip-code people who think that.
There’s even a movie out called “Open Marriage”, but the results of this social experiment aren’t as rosy as the magazine imagines they could be.
The article started out with a couple named Daniel and Elizabeth and, how several years into it:
Daniel would think about a radical possibility: opening up their marriage to other relationships. He would poke around on the internet and read about other couples’ arrangements. It was both an outlandish idea and, to him, a totally rational one. He eventually even wrote about it in 2009 for a friend who had a blog about sexuality. “As our culture becomes more accepting of choices outside the norm, non-monogamy will expand as an acceptable choice, and the world will have to change as a result,” he predicted.
He was in his late 30s when he decided to broach the subject with Elizabeth gingerly: Do you ever miss that energy you feel when you’re in love with someone for the first time? They had two children, and he pointed out that having the second did not detract from how much they loved the first one. “Love is additive,” he told her. “It is not finite.” He was not surprised when Elizabeth rejected the idea; he had mostly raised it as a way of communicating the urgency of his needs.
Then Elizabeth gets Parkinson’s disease; she meets another man with similar symptoms and their relationship turns physical.
Read more at GetReligion.org…