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Grieve the Catholic Way: Seek Heavenly Help Through Sorrow and Trauma

On the backside of happiness is grief — an emotion that we can’t completely avoid or prepare for.

To explore its facets, a mother of a daughter with disabilities, a priest who has written about how the saints met challenges, and widower/exorcist priest shared their insights with the Register.

Jeannie Ewing wrote the book From Grief to Grace: The Journey From Tragedy to Triumph in response to giving birth to a daughter with a rare disease.

“I didn’t know what to do or how to feel,” she told the Register. “I was desperate to understand myself, but found no substantive work that spoke directly to the depth of my grief.” Ewing began researching the complexity of grief while addressing her own feelings.

She explained that the medical community refers to “complicated grief” as meaning being stuck without attempting to move forward, such as obsessing or ruminating over the loss and isolating oneself and not seeking resources or support.

“Good grieving,” she explained, includes not giving yourself a timeline or forcing a sunny spirituality, but rather being honest about feelings — even anger toward God.

“Then,” she said, “we take it to someone trusted and trained — a spiritual director, a therapist — and allow the chasm of the loss to transform us.”

That transformation, she noted, often includes growing in compassion and becoming more attuned to the pain of others. She said it has been especially helpful to be honest with herself, with God and with a few trusted confidants.

Ewing said she has also been helped by meditating on the passion of Jesus.

“The greatest gift about being Catholic,” she said, “is resting in the mystery of God, in surrendering to his infinitude and allowing my limited scope of human experience to yield to what cannot be known this side of heaven.”

Read more at National Catholic Register 

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